The Isolation Diaries: Stage One — Asking God Why
As I write this blog, I’m listening to We Cry Out by Quandra Banks. You should actually play it while reading this. My prayer is that as these words flow, God orchestrates them in a way that speaks directly to your spirit. May He meet you right where you are, the same way He met me when I asked Him this question:
“God, why do I keep attracting people who aren’t aligned with me?”
It wasn’t just about relationships. It was friendships, business connections, even people I tried to help. Time after time, I would notice that what I was giving out wasn’t being matched in return. I would pour in deeply, but what I received back felt surface-level, draining, or even harmful.
And I couldn’t understand why.
The Weight of the Question
Asking God this question was uncomfortable. Because part of me already knew the answer wasn’t going to be about them — it was going to be about me. Isolation has a way of making you sit with yourself, your patterns, and your choices. And God uses that quiet space to show you what needs to be refined.
I began to see that my problem wasn’t just attracting people out of alignment — it was also allowing them to stay. I hadn’t built boundaries strong enough to protect the version of me God was calling me to become.
The Lesson in Stage One
The first stage of isolation revealed this truth: not everyone is meant to walk with you into your becoming. Some people are drawn to your light, but they don’t carry the oil to pour back into you. And if you’re not careful, you’ll mistake attention for alignment.
God was showing me that I needed to stop asking, “Why do they keep coming?” and start asking, “Why do I keep entertaining it?”
That shift hurt, but it also healed. It reminded me that discernment is part of destiny.
Scripture That Anchored Me
One scripture that spoke loudly in this stage was Amos 3:3 — “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?”
I realized that walking with people who don’t agree with your spirit or your assignment will always lead to frustration. Isolation is God’s way of pulling you aside to see it clearly, so you can make room for divine alignment.
Reflection for You
If you’re in a season where everyone around you feels out of alignment, don’t take it as rejection — take it as redirection. Ask God what He’s showing you about yourself. What boundaries need to be built? What patterns need to be broken? What version of you is He trying to protect?
Because sometimes, the first stage of isolation isn’t about them at all. It’s about you — and the becoming God is calling you into.
Isolation Is for Becoming
Most people think isolation is about elevation. But I believe isolation is about something deeper — it’s about becoming. Becoming who God created you to be. Becoming stronger, wiser, and closer to Him.
Isolation Is Not Punishment
When you find yourself alone, it’s easy to feel like you’ve been rejected or forgotten. But isolation isn’t punishment… it’s PURPOSE. It’s the place where God pulls you away from noise and distractions so He can speak directly to you.
“Therefore, behold, I will allure her, and bring her into the wilderness, and speak tenderly to her.” (Hosea 2:14)
The wilderness, or isolation, is where God whispers the things you couldn’t hear surrounded by people and distractions.
What Isolation Produces
In isolation, God begins the work of transformation.
It’s where you break free from chains that once held you.
It’s where you discover your true identity in Christ.
It’s where your purpose starts to become clear.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” (2 Corinthians 5:17)
Isolation strips away the old version of you so the new one can rise.
Becoming Through the Process
Becoming isn’t easy. It means letting go of people, places, and habits that can’t go with you. It means sitting still when everything in you wants to run. It means trusting God with a process you can’t always see or understand.
But becoming is necessary — because it’s where you’re strengthened, healed, and prepared for what’s ahead.
“See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?” (Isaiah 43:19)
God is using isolation to shape you into the new creation He already sees.
Friend, don’t run from your isolation season. Lean into it. Let God use it to refine you, to heal you, and to transform you. Isolation is not the end …it’s the becoming.
Prayer
Father, help me to see isolation not as punishment but as preparation. Teach me to embrace this season and allow You to shape me into who You created me to be. In Jesus’ name, amen.
Obedience Over Fear
Friend, fear will always try to stand in the way of what God has called you to do. It whispers lies like, “You’re not ready,” “You’re not good enough,” or “What will people think?” Fear convinces us to wait, to delay, or to chase perfection instead of simply obeying.
But here’s the truth: it’s not about perfection — it’s about obedience.
How Fear Holds Us Back
Fear doesn’t always show up as panic or shaking hands. Sometimes it looks like procrastination. Sometimes it looks like waiting for the “perfect” moment. And sometimes, it looks like silence — staying quiet when God has already told us to speak.
The enemy knows the power of your yes to God, and that’s why fear pushes so hard against it.
How to Recognize Your Calling
Maybe you’re wondering: “How do I even know what God is asking me to do?”
Most of the time, it’s that very thing that keeps pressing on your heart, the thing you can’t shake, the assignment that makes you uncomfortable — maybe even the one you don’t want to do.
God doesn’t call us to comfort. He calls us to obedience.
The Cost of Disobedience
Some of us are stuck in the same place year after year because of disobedience. God already gave us the instruction, but we’re waiting until we feel ready, waiting until we feel brave, waiting until the timing feels perfect.
But delayed obedience is still disobedience. And disobedience will keep you circling the same mountain instead of stepping into the promise on the other side.
“To obey is better than sacrifice.” (1 Samuel 15:22)
The Power Of Obedience
When we finally obey — even while afraid — something shifts. Fear loses its grip. Peace takes its place. And breakthrough follows obedience.
Your yes to God may not just change your life — it could be the very thing that opens the door for someone else’s freedom.
For You, Friend
So let me ask you: what has God been telling you to do that you’ve been avoiding? Starting the business? Writing the book? Sharing your testimony? Leaving that relationship?
Whatever it is, don’t let fear keep you from moving. Don’t wait for it to feel comfortable. Don’t wait until you have all the answers. Move when God says move.
Your breakthrough is on the other side of obedience. And maybe… just maybe someone else’s breakthrough is too.
A Prayer for Obedience
Father, I come before You asking for clarity. Show me what You’ve been calling me to do, and give me the courage to obey. Remove fear, doubt, and distractions, and let my obedience bring You glory while setting others free. In Jesus’ name, amen.
The Purpose of Isolation
It all begins with an idea.
The Purpose of Isolation
Friend, there’s so much I didn’t put in my book. Sometimes God puts something on my spirit and I just write it down or make a quick voiceover video. But today, as I was building this site and saw “add blog page,” I instantly knew what my first post had to be: Isolation.
Maybe you’re already in that season right now. Or maybe you feel like God is pulling you away from certain people or things and you don’t fully understand why. Even if you’re not there yet, keep reading — because one day you might be, and you’ll remember this.
What Isolation Really Felt Like
My isolation didn’t look like people slowly cutting me off. It looked like betrayal. God allowed everybody around me to show their true colors so I would have no choice but to let them go. One by one, people I trusted exposed themselves.
At first it felt painful, like everything was being stripped away. And truth is — it was. God took away false connections, false comfort, and false security. But I learned that what felt like loss was really His protection.
Isolation isn’t punishment. It’s God cleaning house. It’s Him removing what can’t go with you into your next season.
What I Learned in the Quiet
During that time, I cried a lot. I prayed even more. I fasted because the attacks didn’t stop — they increased. But in the middle of all that, I found peace.
The more time I spent with God, the more He revealed. He showed me who my enemies really were, the spirits behind them, and most importantly, who I am and what I’m called to do.
It wasn’t easy. Some of the revelations cut deep — especially realizing that familiar spirits I felt in Walter were the same I had grown up around. But isolation helped me see patterns and break them. It forced me to hear God clearly and face truth I couldn’t ignore anymore.
Why God Separates You
People love to say, “God separates you because you’re about to elevate.” And while that’s true, I’ve learned it’s not just about elevation.
God separates you to:
• Protect you from what you can’t see.
• Heal wounds you’ve been ignoring.
• Reveal your identity and calling.
• Strengthen you for what’s ahead.
It’s not a quick process. You won’t see fruit in two months. Sometimes it takes years. But if you stay obedient and trust Him, the isolation season will shape you into someone stronger than ever.
My Breakthrough Moment
The week I finally chose me, everything shifted. God confirmed everything He had already shown me. He told me to delete all my social media, to be still, and to fully surrender.
And when I obeyed? The chains broke.
I chose God. I chose obedience. I chose me.
And I never looked back.
For You, Friend
So if you’re in isolation right now — don’t mistake it for abandonment. If you feel like you’re entering it, don’t fight it. And if you’re not there yet, keep this in your heart, because the time will come.
Isolation isn’t God punishing you. It’s Him protecting, healing, and preparing you. It will break you down, yes. But it will also build you up. On the other side of obedience is breakthrough. On the other side of surrender is freedom.
And when it’s all said and done, you’ll look back and realize isolation was one of the best gifts God ever gave you.